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Category: Birth Parents

Giving my baby up in a black culture

To my adoption social worker Meeting you has been the best experience in my life and I thank God for people like you because you remind people like us that there is hope out here in this world. After *Sipho met his parent, I was still in denial that I had a baby. So I […]

An open adoption

I was a 30 year old divorced mom with two beautiful daughters. Just after my divorce I met a man online and we clicked. This man swept me off my feet he was charming and kind and told me everything I wanted to hear. Six months later I walked out broken, and four and half […]

The best possible chance in life

Madeleine* was 18 when she discovered she was pregnant. She was earning a tiny salary and knew right away that she did not have the means to raise the child growing inside her. The baby’s father had made another woman pregnant and was living with her. He didn’t want to know about another dependant. Madeleine […]

The best choice for both of us

I, *Carol was born in Pretoria.  I had a happy childhood with church going parents, even though my dad was a weekend alcoholic and when he was under the influence he abused our family verbally and physically.  My mom on the other side has always been loving and caring, trying to make up for my […]

A letter to my chosen adoptive mom

I don’t know where to start. So I’ll start of by saying thank you so very much for the lovely file you made for me. It means the world to me that you made every page so special. From a mother to a mother, I would just like to say I could never have asked […]

A poem to my son

A poem to *Daniel My dearest *Daniel My sweet, little innocent baby. There was a time when your life was a big maybe. You are unexpected and a miracle, But when I found out about you, I was hysterical I can feel your body moving inside mine I just want to hold you until everything […]

Memories of a birth mother

The moment I laid eyes on the Adoptions4Ever website, I knew in my heart that I had found the place and people to help me in my situation. At the time, I was 30 weeks pregnant and stranded in Kwa-Zulu Natal aged 30 years old. I was in an emotionally unstable frame of mind and […]